Kandi knows what it’s like to live with the horror of abuse–both from the point of view of the survivor as well as a mother helping her children survive.

Bio

Kandi lived a life of joy and happiness. She didn’t have any of the angst her sister did. Any time her parents quizzed her if she’d been abused by a foster brother, she said, “No.” But if asked how she felt about that foster brother, she’d say she hated him. This, from a person who didn’t feel strong emotions.

Life went on as normal. She went to college, met her knight in shining armor, got married, and had kids. When her step-daughter and oldest son were confronted with sexual abuse, she asked her sister for the name of the book that had helped her. Little did Kandi expect to awaken buried memories.

Sixteen years after an incident with her foster brother, Kandi finally uncovered the truth. She had been abused. With the help of her knight in shining armor, she was able to walk through the darkness of abuse and come out to the light of freedom.

Almost thirty years later, she brings what she learned from those horrific weeks and months to help others heal and deal with the emotions and coping mechanisms abuse brings about.

Speaking

*Dealing with Trauma
*How to Heal After Abuse
*Forgiving: What it Really Means

Books That Deal with Abuse

Dragon’s Cure

This was the first book that Kandi wrote on the topic. Reviewers call it a cautionary tale. Although designed for readers ages 8 and up, it still helps warn young girls, especially, that not all men are trustworthy. It also explores the topic of physical abuse, forgiveness and healing from abuse.

The One Who Sees Me

With the theme of blended family, The One Who Sees Me doesn’t deal with sexual abuse but with physical abuse of a servant and her mistress.

Four Stars over Ardatz: Journeys

These two books are due out in 2025. Both address abuse and the trauma that is left behind as well as the hope of healing.