Death in Real Life

Yesterday, I stood in a solemn room with friends from my high school and early college years. The building itself brought back memories I had completely forgotten–it was where I said good-bye to my own beloved “Gramps Pat”. As I entered the room I was greeted by the people I had not seen in twenty-four years or more. Yet, the warm welcome and the gratitude for my presence was real. I stood and took it all in, knowing from experience that my words would not be enough. I listened, watched, and spoke when appropriate. Smiles came as well, not only when we remembered their dad, but when the grandkids would try to grapple with what had happened.

How do we explain death to nine- and ten-year-olds? How can we answer the questions?

• Why is grandpa’s eyes closed?
• Why is he so cold?
• Why isn’t he breathing?
• Is he breathing in heaven?
• Does he have to change his clothes in heaven?
• Why does he have a tie on?
• Will he be able to breathe when they close the lid?
• Why does it say “going home”? He’s not going home.

Death in Literature

Death. Such a hard thing for humans to accept–those who were born to live. And yet, if we think about it, death is actually a gift. Tuck Everlasting tells the story of a family with immortality. They live on watching those around them die while they never do. It leads them to become unattached to the people around them because eventually they will have to say good-bye. Tolkein talks of the Numenorian kings who began to fight death and strive to live longer and longer. They forgot the true purpose and passage of death.

Death in Perspective

I think Tolkein had it right. The original plan for humans was not death. It was for us to live in harmony with our Creator, but the Deceiver came in and broke that peace. The Creator in His loving way didn’t want us to live forever in pain, sickness, and imperfection. So, he created a way for us to pass over to His world.

The idea of passing on to the other side to a better world is one that brings peace; however, there is a darker side. Tweet This

For those who have rejected the Creator, He has prepared a place of judgment. This reality is what drives my writing, especially books like The One Who Sees Me.

So, if I ever kill off characters in my books, know it isn’t with glee. Instead it is to help a mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, aunt or uncle as they try to explain to a young person why grandpa will not be coming home. If I can write a story that will ease the pain later for someone, then it is worth it. It’s for the little girl who leaves a dollar in grandpa’s casket so he can purchase a Coca-Cola in heaven.

Halloween comes fro m All Hallow’s Evening. It is a Catholic celebration that has been blended with many other beliefs. In Mexico it blended with the Aztec belief that the dead would come back and roam the streets for a month on end. It wasn’t a scary morbid time because they believed that death was the reality and life was just a dream. In some ways they may have been correct. We tend to focus on life and fight for it and forget that there is an eternal value that really is more valuable than the temporary. In America, the traditions were those from the Celtic traditions of all the evil spirits would roam the night before All Saints Day. So, the turnips were carved, tricks were done and treats left out to appease the spirits.

Today, many people have no clue to the past history of Halloween. They dress up and have fun. They get candy, and give candy. They carve pumpkins and have fun and dances. They decorate their houses for the month with spiders and orange and black lights. It is almost as if the holiday starts in September. We are heading back toward the month long celebration of those who had gone on before.

What should our reaction to this be? Should we worry about death? Should we be fascinated with it? Should we fear it? No. Life is a precious gift, but death is a part of life. It is a moving from one side to another. The fear should come from not knowing where you are passing to. There are two places to spend life after death. Will you know where you are going? It is possible to know. You don’t have to wonder. If you want to know how, feel free to fill out the form at the side of the page and I’ll share more with you privately.

So whether you dress up, honor the dead, or don’t celebrate, the important thing is to know that there is life after death and you can know where you are going.